Are You A Victim or Are You A Volunteer?
This video by Robert Smith does an absolutely fabulous job of explaining how we create our pain and problems as well as how we explain our screwed-up-ness to ourselves and how we maintain it.
Please watch this carefully and take notes. Let me know your thoughts. – Mark





It’s an interesting video, I was just introduced to NLP yesterday and I found the videos to stop anxiety were spoken with more care and positive re-inforcement that things will get better. I’ve been attacked with many of the reasons for my problems that are listed in the video and been told many times that I am doing this to myself which I understand is true but not helpful at all. The video does want to make me research what he’t talking about because I’m open to any kind of information to make my brain work the way I want. I would have enjoyed it more if it was a bit slower and a little less “get over it, it happened move on” especially when he said grow up and I know I make little things huge but I’ve become extremely defensive over the years and had I watched this video a few years ago I’d probably be in tears over it feeling like a failure because I haven’t grown in certain areas. I know all situations and problems are not the same and I’ve been told flat out by psychologists and psychiatrists that they can’t help me so I’m a bit jaded but I felt that if I don’t buy into what he’s saying it’ll turn into the same accusations of me not wanting help.
What he said about not wanting to let go of the memories and being worried about who I am is right on and it’s because I feel like if I let go of the memories I’m saying it’s ok and if I say I’m ok then the people who’s actions and words physically and emotionally hurt me and continue to hurt me will get satisfaction when what I really want is for the people to feel the pain I feel and for them to understand and feel bad for their actions. This causes alot of guilt and more questions of who am I and how do I stop this which also makes the video appealing in hopes of becoming a better person.