Resolution Time

Write it down!Well here we go again. The New Year officially feels like it begins today with everyone heading back to work after the holidays.

For me the last few weeks have been all about choices and the direction I’m being sometimes led and sometimes pushed in (okay sometimes it feels like being shoved).

I’ve gotten a number of moving e-mails inspired by my last two posts so I thought it would be appropriate today to share a few thoughts about goals, and living your dreams and interpreting the events of your life in such a way as to make sense of things…

Ever since I was 8 years old I’ve wanted to be a singer/songwriter. You all know that by now. You also know that for some strange reason the very personality traits that made me really good as a song writer in only about 2 years of applying myself to it, took me basically the next 30 years to learn how to live with and how to get out into the world. Sensitivity and creativity don’t always make the best business partners.

In my 20′s a friend gave me a copy of the classic book “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill.

This is a book that basically says the same thing as “The Secret” but about 50 years earlier.

One of Hill’s main points is Persistence. If one is pursuing a worthy goal there will be obstacles. There will be setbacks. The main difference between the people who achieve greatness and those who don’t is the willingness and ability to push on even when it looks like nothing is working.

In example after example Napoleon Hill tells of people who gave up inches away from the mother lode. Those very same people, having learned that lesson moved on to create riches and success in their lives despite having missed great opportunities earlier.

So when nothing seems to be working, when you think you’ve exhausted all your resources following your heart that’s the moment to pick yourself up, dust your self off and keep asking the powerful questions.

  • “How can I get to where I want to go?”
  • “What is it I’m not seeing that when I see it will unlock this block and let me move forward?”
  • “What’s the one question I need to ask that will give me access to all my resources?”
  • Who can I ask for help who would benefit as much from helping me as I will from being helped?
  • “Why does it work out better than I can possibly imagine?”

Sometimes persistence means taking a step back. Sometimes what looks like a “retreat” is really an advance in a different direction. Sometimes the best way through a wall is to take the long way around.The point is whatever happens we are the ones who attach meaning to it. So it’s always up to us to decide whether something is a setback or an opportunity to learn and change our approach.

So today, as you think about the year ahead. What do you truly want for your life? What kind of year would be so awesome and wonderful for you that you will look back 10 or 20 years from now and think, “2009 was the pivot point. 2009 was the year when it all started to come together”

All the experts tell us to write out goals down. Create a “vision board”. Focus on what we want daily. So  get out a sheet of paper and in your own handwriting write out at least 3 things you want for yourself this year.

In the next few posts I’ll share with you some powerful tools from NLP and Time Line to literally “program” your future.

but before you grab the paper and pen.

go ahead and play the victory song video below and let it play in the background while you write. It’s all about this and is filled with powerful questions to get your unconscious mind working with you…

Keep writing those goals and resolutions. In my next post I’ll share the next steps…

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Thanks!

-Mark

BTW This song can be found on my Thirsty For the Sky CD. If you’d like to invest in some of my music CD’s (and support the “Life In Song” Project) just click this link: Mark Shepard’s CD’s

Dangerous Questions

Just have a moment to share one key thought with you today:

What questions do you habitually ask?

The reason for asking is this – Your unconscious mind responds to questions more powerfully than any other kind of self talk. So if you want your affirmations to really create change internally, turning them into a question can make a difference. Noah St. John calls these affirmations in question form: “Afformations”.

What happens is your Unconscious Mind hears a question and begins to activate a process that is hardwired into our neurology. For example if you ask yourself “How can I find a way?” You Mind begins to filter your reality and it begins to find ways to answer you. It begins to draw your attention to answers.

So listen today to what you ask yourself. Are you asking disempowering questions like “Why am I such a __________ (negative label)? or are you asking powerful questions like “why am I in the right place at the right time doing the right thing for the highest good?”

Now, if you’ve been following my posts lately you might recall that a few weeks ago I started asking myself a series of very, “dangerous” questions. I only mean “dangerous” in the sense that the answer might disrupt my comfort zone. Sometimes “danger” is a good thing. Ask any bungee jumper!

The questions were: “If I had only 6 months to live what would I be doing? What would I stop doing? How would I spend my time?

I got several answers.

  1. Record each and every one of the almost 400 songs I’ve written over the past 30 years.
  2. Spend as much time with my friends and family as possible
  3. Share my music with as many people as possible.
  4. I would stop trying to “be everything to everybody” (Listening to my own song “Motivation” reminded me of that. Listen to “Motivation” here

If those were the answers, the “dangerous” challenge was to do that. Now.Not next year. Not next month. Now.

If you really and truly acted on what you say is most important to you, how would your life change? No matter we “say” is most important, it’s what we “do” that really demonstrates it.

Sometimes that’s that last thing I want to hear!

For me it became clear that renting a large beautiful, expensive apartment was less important than my 3 priorities. But daring to let it go even if I didn’t know where I would be going (even if it made me sad) opened up the possibilities. One idea was to put all my extra stuff in storage and travel from friend to friend, family member to family member, connecting and performing along the way. Performing could mean a guest spot at a local church, performing at a Starbucks, or even on the street.

All of a sudden other places to perform began to show up on my internal radar screen. At one point I performed at hundreds of elementary schools each year all over New England. Lately that has been down to just a few each month. But did it fit my criteria? Yes. So I began to ask questions about how I could re-connect with all the schools I’ve previously performed at…

Performing at colleges is another area of immense opportunity. I had just started to break into that market 5 years ago or so when I discovered NLP and shifted my focus to that…But certainly college students would not only be open to music but they could benefit hugely from “The Way of the Modern Jedi”…

Performing at festivals and local acoustic music venues had been something I’d been “gonna do” for a while…there’s a lot less money in that market and having a high rent made me look elsewhere. With less overhead, less pressure. Time to make contact…

Now here’s the interesting piece, does this decision to truly “surrender” to my music and “honor” my creative work stop me from practicing NLP?

No! It actually makes it more possible because every where I go as a performer I can share my story of how I was able to overcome my performing anxiety with NLP! AND since I have written so many songs influenced by NLP sharing that fact wherever I go and inviting those interested in learning more about NLP could easily and effortlessly spread that work in a congruent way.

Wherever I share my story from the stage of crushing anxiety and the stories of the many people I’ve helped to overcome their own anxiety without drugs or endless therapy through NLP, people can see for themselves the result. So it just may be a more effective way to get the word out…

So that’s just a bit of the process going on over here with me. It all started with asking some powerful questions.

What’s more important is, what are your thoughts? What questions are you asking yourself at the close of this year?

Please feel free to share some of your questions below.

In case you need some help with questions try these on for size:

  • If I had only 6 months to live how would I spend my time?
  • What’s one simple thing can I do today to live fully and abundantly?
  • Why does it work out better than I can possibly imagine?
  • What resources do I need to attract to myself so that I can truly make a positive difference in the world?
  • What would be the most rewarding thing to do?
  • How can I have fun today?
  • How can I live fully today?
  • How can I ask for help?
  • Who can I ask for help?
  • What am I grateful for today?

Please let me know your thoughts and comments below.

thanks!

- Mark

p.s. BTW as a result of my last post and being willing to ask for help and willing to admit that “I don’t always have all the answers” a good friend of mine offered me a place to stay for 3-6 months. another friend offered me a place to store my stuff. Another friend appeared who has all the administrative and logistical skills/aptitudes that would enable me to truly focus on what I’m good at…Is work involved? yes. Does it scare me to move out of my comfort zone? yes. But it also feels positive and exciting!

The question that I ask the most is: “Why does it work out better than I can possibly imagine?”

Try it! Write it out long hand!