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How I used NLP to Stop Being Shy in about 10 minutes:

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Mark Shepard, Clive Swersky, Laurie Hathorn, Dave Jenks hit it off fabulously when we met on the Alive With Clive show

Had an awesome, magical experience the other day. I got a call on Thursday from Clive Swersky who has a TV show in White Plains NY called "Alive With Clive: People turning Passion into Profit"

A scheduled guest had canceled at the last minute and he needed someone to interview on Friday afternoon. Was I free? Heck yeah!

Modern Jedi rule #1: Always say yes to any opportunity to be on TV, Radio or interviewed in print.

I was excited to have 30 minutes to tell my story and share my Modern Jedi theme song.

Ultimately the most exciting part of the show was getting to know Clive a bit more. He has an incredibly fascinating story that I hope to actually share with you in the very near future...
Here's the link to the Alive With Clive TV Show website

Clive was taping two segments on Friday, mine as well as one with Laurie Hathorn and Dave Jenks who are creating conferences and programs for entrepreneurs. Dave is a bestselling author in the real estate field and Laurie has had an entrepreneurial passion and a series of major business accomplishments since childhood.

Check out their work: www.FreeEnterpriseWarriors.com

After the taping we had the opportunity to go out to eat together and it was just one of those magical moments when conversation just sparked and flowed!

I'll let you know when the episodes will air. I've ordered a copy of the show on DVD and hopefully I'll be able to upload some or all of it to the web so you can check it out wherever you are.

The Modern Jedi Lesson?  Say "yes" to opportunities out of the blue. You never know where it will lead, who you will meet, who will influence you, encourage you or inspire you!

- Mark

p.s. because of the serendipitous chance to be on clive's show I extended the Modern Jedi NLP Training reigstration deadline until Tuesday, May 5th at 3:00 pm Eastern time. Laurie and Dave might even be joining the course! Register for the NLP Course now!

This is Part 1 of a Question and Answer call about Mark Shepard's Modern Jedi NLP Online Course (recorded 4/29/2009)

Introduction to the Modern Jedi NLP Online Course

• Convenient
• Affordable
• Multi-media
• NLP Community Master-Mind
• A few examples of Real People Using NLP Michael Guerin and Rob Bronson
• Graduates of this course will be able to be certified NLP Practitioners or they can just use the tools and techniques to improve their lives.

Q: What is NLP?

A: Neuro Linguistic Programming is all about how you run your mind. How you interpret the external world and make sense of it internally. It's also the study of excellence. It's also all about how you communicate with other people.

NLP is partly modeled on the work of Dr. Milton Erickson, MD "the father of Modern Hypnosis" as well as some of best Therapists, athletes, business people, etc.

Your behavior, thoughts, reactions, interpretations of the world, etc are under our control...if we knew how to access the "programs". People can make incredible improvements in their lives, relationships and work rapidly.

Q: Can NLP help with changes where a person knows they should eat more vegetables but just never does?

A: Yes. I give a short introduction to NLP submodalities on the recording.

Q: A question about Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic channels of communication.

A: I give an example of making a quick change with a client using kinesthetic submodalities (over the phone while in the grocery store)

Q: How young can a client be and what intelligence level is needed for success with NLP?

A: Works great with kids. Works with all intelligence levels as long as a client can access their imagination.

Q: Can you explain about how your unconscious mind doesn't recognize the difference between what is real and what is a memory or an imagined event?

A: Explained with example

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This is Emily Bernard's second post about the NLP personal breakthrough session we did to address the PTSD she was experiencing after having been stabbed 14 years ago. If you're just joining the story you can get the Introduction and Part 1 here:

• PTSD Case Study Introduction
• PTSD Case Study Part 1

Emily Bernard writes:

"Mark and I began our first session with an interview. He asked me a series of questions about the problems—anxiety, fear, dread—I have experienced since I was stabbed in 1994.

His questions made me think.

They weren’t the usual “What happened? And then what happened?” kinds of queries. Mark’s questions put me in the center, if that makes sense.

Immediately, he was guiding me to reframe the event—and the enduring negative feelings created by my memory—so that I could see myself as having a role—not in what happened (the past is the past, of course), but in my subsequent reactions to it.

I once read somewhere that humans use only a small fraction of their enormous brain power throughout their lifetimes. It wasn’t that I felt my brain expanding as Mark and I talked, but his questions led me to a new doorway in my mind. Suddenly, the literature he sent me about the powers of the unconscious mind began to make sense. We have more control over what goes on inside of our heads than we often believe we do.

After more than an hour of this intensive interview, Mark and I broke for lunch. Again, I was impressed by his gentle spirit, his warmth and sparkle. He was as eager to get back to work as I was. So, after this short break, we began again.

The second part of our session involved reconstructing a timeline. Mark guided me back in time as I explored the roots of negative emotions and limiting decisions. We went further back than I was honestly comfortable with—at first. For me, I think the strength of this work is how much it pushed me to do and think things that I wasn’t comfortable with. It pushed me out of my comfort zone, and all those habitual ways of understanding and narrating myself and my relationship to the world.

Mark and I went into the recesses of my memory, and I found myself able to recount experiences that I had thought I had buried. I was able to speak about things that I had talked only to a few other people about.

Mark was not judgmental; his demeanor was calm and relaxed the entire time. Because I felt safe, I went further and further back. And before I knew it, I was ready to be hypnotized."

- Emily Bernard

In part 3 I'll share what those questions were that I asked Emily as well as key ways what I do is different from traditional therapy.

In part 4 Emily will share her experience of being hypnotized...

In the meantime if you'd like to:

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If there was a way for you to

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Would you be interested or not?

Watch this video and let me know!

I need to know because I’ve re-invented my Modern Jedi NLP Certification Training. I’ve redesigned it so that you can get the massive benefits of applying Modern Jedi Mind mastery to the challenges in your life or work without having to invest a huge chunk of time or a huge chunk of money.

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And right now you can’t even sign up yet.

I just need a show of hands so I have an idea of how many of you are interested in defeating the dark side in your life or work and mastering your mind for a change

I’m still working out the logistics so I just need to know if you’re interested.

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The Following Post is written by Emily Bernard describing her experience working with me in a Personal Breakthrough Session with the intention of clearing her PTSD and anxiety about public places.

Mark Shepard is very tall. His height is the first thing I notice about him when I open the door to let him in. The second thing is his demeanor, which is kind, gentle, and warm. He has a youthful, eager way about him. His smile says, "This is as much of an adventure for me as it is for you."

When I called Mark, I was ready. I had arrived in New Haven in July 2008 in order to begin a fellowship at Yale. Within four weeks, I was in Yale-New Haven hospital. The doctors determined I had a bowel obstruction--my second in seven years--and scheduled me for surgery. I was lucky--my intestines somehow untangled themselves from the mass of scar tissue inside my abdomen. After a week's stay, I was allowed to leave.

This was my second visit to Yale-New Haven. Fifteen years ago, I was stabbed in the gut by a stranger in a coffee shop. The perpetrator was sick with mental illness. He was hospitalized; everyone involved survived.

For fifteen years, I have been unable to get past certain fears associated with being in public and interacting with strangers. After one of my doctors informed me that I was just "one of those unfortunates," people who "over heal," or make too much scar tissue, I decided to do whatever I could to turn my fears and luck around.

Medical doctors told me there was nothing to be done; psychotherapy didn't seem to be helping. I decided to look beyond traditional doctor's offices for solutions.

Enter Mark Shepard.

For our first session, Mark agreed to come to my house. His generosity put me at ease, and made it that much more possible for me to take the leap into the unknown world of hypnosis. At that point, all I knew about hypnosis I had read about in books. Mark was recommended to me by a massage therapist who herself had yet to try hypnosis. "When I'm ready, Mark Shepard is the one I will go to." That was enough for me.

Mark and I first spoke on the phone. He was friendly, prompt, and direct. I liked him immediately. He sent me some literature to help me get acquainted with hypnosis, the unconscious mind, and his methods. There were questionnaires to fill out, and homework to prepare so that Mark could come to know more intimately the kinds of struggles that had led me to hypnosis in the first place.

I liked the questionnaires and the homework. I see them as the first stage in the process of the work I am doing with Mark. They force you to articulate your problems, fears, and goals. They help you focus, and they all center around the issue of "change." What Mark does has psychological components, but it is not psychotherapy. He gets you to identify the root of a problem, but also the role you have played in either creating the problem or contributing to its survival. The work is goal-oriented. It takes faith, work, and openness. I believe it is a process--one, for me, that has only begun.

Thanks to Emily's willingness to share her process, you will be able to get a sense of how I do what I do to help people clear fears, phobias, anxiety, PTSD and other Mind/Body challenges. Look for Part 2 next...

Are You A Victim or Are You A Volunteer?

This video by Robert Smith does an absolutely fabulous job of explaining how we create our pain and problems as well as how we explain our screwed-up-ness to ourselves and how we maintain it.

Please watch this carefully and take notes. Let me know your thoughts. - Mark

This video is just awesome. Let me know what your best failure was in the comments below!

Okay, I'll go first. My Biggest Failure?

Bought 4 houses for nothing down at the top of the 1980's real estate bubble. Ended up losing everything. Declared bankruptcy. Got evicted. When all my grand schemes went poof! I ended up doing kids music for local nursery schools for $75 bucks an hour. That led to school performances and adding storytelling...created my DrumSongStory programs...which are keeping me going during this little economic "challenge" we're having now.

Your turn!

Elizabeth Gilbert, author of "Eat, Pray, Love," muses on the impossible things we expect from artists and geniuses -- and shares a radical idea. It's a funny, personal and moving talk.

Please share this with a friend!

-Mark

One of the major techniques of NLP is something called reframing. Essentially it is a way to take any limiting belief or behavioral pattern and turn it around in such a way that the persone either has an "aha" moment or it causes the problem to disappear entirely.

The reason reframing can be so powerful is that few people are aware of how strongly language affects our experience of what we call "reality". By changing the "frame" around a problem it doesn't just give you a new perspective (although that's certainly part of it), it can actually make a profound and observable neurological shift.

I had done a series on NLP reframing in my newsletter sometime last year and it was picked up on by a couple of guys in Ohio, Aaron Torres and Paul Binkley who have been learning NLP on their own and practicing it's applications at the auto factory they work in.

I hadn't heard from these guys for a while and was delighted to get an e-mail from Paul Binkley with another great story. So here it is in it's entirely with Paul's permission. Thank you Paul! I definitely look forward to doing an NLP Certification in Ohio soon!

Please note: I've added a few comments in red to give you a little insight into what Paul is doing outside of conscious awareness.

Mark,
Long time no see. Thanks for the ongoing email and updates about your work.

I had an opportunity this week to help a coworker reframe a major life circumstance. and I thought you would like to hear about it, partly because it is a success story of mind over matter and because I had the presence of mind to offer it, in part, because of your invaluable contribution to my own perspectives on life, the universe, and everything.

A female coworker, 33yrs old apx., confided in me how angry she was that her mother, whom she asked to watch her dogs while she was away for the day, upset her greatly for about the millionth time over the same issue of playing favorites among her three daughters.

It seems that my coworker had left $30 for her mother to order her favorite pizza with everything on it while she watched the dogs at her (my coworkers) house.

Her mother, not wanting to spend the day alone, invited her favorite daughter over to her not so favorite daughters (my coworker) house, to keep her company.

This is where the problem begins.

The mother, desiring to bless her favorite daughter, gave the $30 to her favorite daughter instead of buying her favorite pizza for herself.

My coworker on hearing this, was outraged.

She went on to present to me all manor of evidences supporting her claim that her sister is her mothers favorite child ( they were many and convincing proofs). We often have major amounts of "evidence" for why a certain belief or perception is true. And then started telling how her sister (the favored) was totally dependent on their mother for everything and made no effort to have a life outside of her dependency on their mother, and how her mother was also equally her mothers ( my coworkers grandmother) favorite and just as insanely dependent on her to do everything for her.

She went on to explain how her mother does nothing for her own benefit to a point of serious health risk from obesity, attributing this to her dependency on her mother.

She nearly cried while confiding that her mother, during a day long visit on Christmas day, had not used the restroom all day and stank of urine.

When her mother got up to get something to eat, my coworker noticed a folded towel on her mothers chair, which she first mistook as an added padding then, on inspection, realized her mother had urinated on the folded towel.

The thought that her mother would employ such a method to circumvent needing to visit the restroom, grieved my coworker profoundly. I would like to mention that her mother is not reported to have any health condition relating to bladder control.

Harder to believe than the above:

Here's the underlying Limiting Decision:
My coworker admits that her own sense of self worth, her practiced state of mind, is dominated by her interpretation that she is less of a person because she is not her mothers favorite.

Here's what she's not seeing about herself. This is currently outside of her conscious awareness:
My coworker is about the hardest working, self-sufficient, commonsense, take care of business person I work with (outside of Aaron Torres of course). She is nothing like her mother or her sister or her grandmother.

Here Paul is associating her into the problem in order to "light up the neurological net":
I asked her to imagine what her life would be like she were her mother's favorite. She couldn't do it.

I suggested she(if she were the favorite) would be as pitifully helpless as her sister. How would she like that?

She convulsed with disgust at the thought. The fact that she convulsed with disgust at the thought is proof that she is indeed associated into that experience. When we say "associated" we mean that the person is looking through their own eyes in their internal representation of the situation. they are "in" it.

I told her that the next time her mother favors her sister over her she should thank God that she is not under the generational curse of being mothers favorite.

"I never thought of it that way" she said. Exactly!

I went on to thank God out loud ) quite loudly) right there on the spot that she was not her mothers favorite(note the embedded message). Paul is also using this person's model of the world. If he was talking to an atheist or a new ager he might not thank God he might say it in a different way. For the Atheist he might say "Thank Goodness!" for the spiritual but not religious peron he might say "Thank the Universe." It's all about speaking the language of the person you're working with

The grimace she had been wearing all day turned to a beaming smile. The great thing about NLP is using our sensory acuity skills we can actually look at another person and see the shift. In other words we can get immediate feedback as to whether something worked or not. Sometimes it's a subtle color shift other times it's pretty noticeable. If we get the shift great! if we don't get the shift, "there's no failure, there's only feedback" and we simply try a different approach.

I reiterated the suggestion to say out loud to herself how thankful she is to not be the favorite, next time she recognizes the hideous manifestation of favoritism disease. Speaking the phrase out loud creates an auditory and physiological anchor so that the shift can be "locked in" to her neurology and made available for re-triggering the new insight whenever it's reinforcement is needed. Also, labeling the old problem as "Favoritism disease" links the old thought pattern in a powerful way to a disease which locks in an "away from" strategy unconsciously.

She said she would.

God bless,
Paul

special thanks to Paul Binkley for sharing this story! Any other examples out there of powerful reframes? ether leave a comment here or e-mail me directly with your own stories and experiences at mark [at] markshepard.com

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Mark

p.s. to learn more about NLP and how you can use it to "reframe" your own "problems" into "opportunities" visit Modern Jedi NLP Training