Time Line Therapy vs. NLP Swish Pattern?

Just got this question from one of my NLP students and clients. I’m sharing it with his permission.

Hi mark I am wondering before you do swish patterns and other NLP techniques, don’t we really have to clear our fears with the Timeline Therapy Techniques™?

When we worked together 1:1 and I was able to allow joy to come in my life for the first time, it was a good start but my other issues about living life and business issues are still coming up.

When a fear comes up should I do Timeline on myself with the issue to get it clear first?  In other words what is the checklist to follow for tools to use when a fear arises that is holding me back?  I feel at this point I  should be able to use the tools I am learning in your course and what I picked up at our breakthrough session .

I really understand that we are the only ones that can cure ourselves.  Thanks so much.

-Name Witheld

Here’s my response:

An important Key to NLP Success: As long as we’re alive stuff will come up. It’s like your Unconscious Mind  “gets” that it can release stuff now and so it keeps offering up new “layers” to be addressed. I also want to remind us all that when we do make a major shift to not discount it or negate it just because there is still more work to do. There will always be more to shift. That why it’s so cool to have a wide choice of NLP tools to choose from.

I find that when I clear something with timeline it typically stays cleared if I have gotten the root cause event. Sometimes, I’ve had to go back and clear a slightly different limiting decision that seemed to have the same root cause.

I prefer to do time line therapy techniques ® to clear the limiting decision and chain of negative emotions first. Then I’ll use the swish pattern to “program” the new response I want into my neurology. If you do a Swish pattern enough times it’s cool because the old negative “knee-jerk” trigger will now bring up the desired state or picture.

It’s hard to give a “check-list” of first do a. then b. then c. I tend to follow my intuition with what to do when.

What I love about NLP, Hypnosis, Time Line and EFT is that I can do a lot of things on my own to clear stuff that comes up at the moment it gets in my face. That’s one reason I truly believe in teaching my clients how to take charge of their own change rather than see me as the “curer” or “healer”.  That said, sometimes though we just can’t get enough leverage on our selves to shift something.  At those moments it can save a lot of time and angst to get help from a trained practitioner of NLP.

In those cases, I find it a lot easier to have someone else do it with me. That’s yet another benefit of the NLP Training because you not only learn how to do the NLP techniques on your own for yourself and for other people, but you actually get to take turns with the other students in being the “client” in our 4 day bootcamp. So you can clear a lot of your own stuff in the process of learning NLP. You also make friends with other people who “get” you and who are interested in clearing their own issues and blocks. So it makes a lot of sense to come to the training and then do trades afterward with the students you meet.

If I’m in a moment of  “challenge” and I just need to shift something immediately, I  use EFT.  I tap and speak the “set up phrase” LOUDLY! It seems the more emotion I have towards clearing something the more powerful EFT tapping is. If you’d like to learn more about EFT click here:  Get a free EFT Starter package

Here’s an example:

“Even though I thought I’d cleared this @#^&*$%!@$*%$!@# problem, I deeply and completely accept myself!”
I do a couple rounds unashamedly focusing on the problem and wallowing loudly in the whiny victim mode as much as I want while tapping the EFT acupressure points. I have so much fun with this that often that’s enough to snap me out of my funk!

Then I start feeding in positive how and why questions like:
“Even though I haven’t yet found and released the root cause event of this challenge, why do I deeply and completely accept myself?”

Finally I just tap on

“Why do I deeply and completely accept myself and why does it work out better than I can possibly imagine?”
“Why do I love myself? Why do I attract all the resources and assistance I need to clear this once and for all?”
Why do I resolve this in a way that’s even better than I can possibly imagine?”
etc.
Usually EFT clears  pretty much everything from headaches to limiting beliefs.

If it doesn’t do the job for a particular issue I will next use swish patterns and other NLP submodalities techniques to get relief.

If I’m still not shifting the issue, then I will call one of my students/colleagues and get them to do Time Line Therapy with me. Sometimes I can do Time line by myself but I tend to space out and drift off unless someone is there keeping me on track.

Depending upon the issue, when I can’t get enough leverage on my “stuff” by myself, I call Joann Dunsing or Joe Schroder or Kathy McAfee or Kim Kasperian.

Remember that Tiger Woods has a coach and Michael Jordan had a coach. One of my greatest and most humbling lessons is that sometimes it saves a lot of time and money to get with someone who can get you the results you can’t always get on your own.

I have even just handed the Time Line Therapy™ script to someone who knew nothing about it and just had them read the damn thing. It worked like a charm because it kept me on task. The script doesn’t do the clearing, we do. So as you learn various techniques approach using them on your own issues or “stuff” with an attitude of wanton curiosity and playfulness.

I hope that answered the question and was helpful for those of you who are working to “Defeat The Dark Side In Your Personal And Professional Life. Master Your Mind For A Change with NLP!” :o )

Why does it work out better than you can possibly imagine?

-Mark Shepard, NLPT
Certified Master Practitioner and Trainer of NLP, Hypnosis & Time Line Therapy™

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NLP Rapport Skills

NLP Success – A little taste of the material from Lesson 2 of the Modern Jedi NLP On-Line/Hands-On Training:

One of the contributions of NLP to the world of communication excellence is the process I call “Magical Rapport”.

You know that feeling you get when you “click” with another person or you just met them but you feel like you’ve known them forever? That’s rapport. We all do it all the time unconsciously when we are connecting with another person. The most typical way we approach it is to talk and find things in common. “so, where are you from?” “How many children do you have” etc.  But the founders of NLP discovered that we do tons of other things that we don’t have the foggiest notion we’re doing, like matching and mirroring physiology and tonality (among other secret stuff)…

So NLP didn’t invent rapport, it just brought the unconscious process up into conscious awareness so that we could do it more often and with greater effectiveness.  It would take me hours to share all the stories of how I’ve been able to build deep and lasting business and personal friendships rapidly. Suffice it to say that people like to do business with people they like.

We cover rapid rapport building  fully in the Modern Jedi NLP On-Line/Hands-On Training. If you’re business or relationships could use a boost you might want to join us (there’s still time)

One of my NLP students who is a law enforcement professional asked a really good question and I wanted to answer it here on my blog so that all my students as well as those of you who are passionate about NLP could have a chance to hear my answer as well as to make a comment or share an experience you might have had with Rapport building.

Question:

I had a question regarding rapport.  When someone is displaying negative emotions such as defensive, angry or some other type of negative behavior, would mirroring or matching be counterproductive because of how the other person may interpret their behavior being matched or mirrored?

My concern was that because so much of communication is non-verbal this may only inflame an already negative situation. Or would mirroring and matching help to “sync” in with that person and once rapport is established you are now able to more effectively move the person away from those negative behaviors.  I could see both being applicable but on a case by case situation.  I would like to get your take on this as well as if it is a case by case situation what would be examples of when each would be appropriate.

Also are there more subtle rapport techniques within mirroring/matching that could be used such as only eye blinks or other less noticeable techniques like cross matching, etc…
- Mike L.

Answer:

When someone is angry or depressed we want to connect with them in a way that will enable them to feel heard and understood without getting pulled into their state. If you use the typical rapport skills of matching and mirroring words, tonality, and physiology with an angry person you will almost be guaranteed to get angry.
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However there is nothing more infuriating to an angry person than dealing with someone who remains totally calm in the face of his/her anger. What we found in NLP was that if you mirror back the angry person’s tonality but say concilatory words, you will be able to connect enough so that the person can begin to hear you. Then once you’ve estabilished rapport, you can begin to gradually change your tonality and lead them into a calmer state.
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With someone who is depressed you could also match their typically softer quieter tonality while beginning to use words of more positive and hopeful outlook.
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Once we establish rapport we can test it to make sure we maintain it. Whenever we encounter resistance we need to go back and develop more rapport.
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We can also use a technique called Crossover matching and mirroring, using one body part like a finger, to match the upset person’s eye blinks or foot tapping.
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So I hope that answered the question, for those of you out there wondering how NLP can help you to defeat the dark side in your professional and personal life and master your mind for a change, just consider what it might be like to have a set of skills you could use to connect with people in any state and be able to communicate in a way that would enable them to truly hear what you have to say.
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Or maybe you’re like me and never felt like you were one of the “in” crowd in High School. I was at a gathering recently of a bunch of folks I knew in High School. For a moment I felt that old lonely “outsider” feeling. Then I remembered my Rapport Skills and ended up having a wonderful time. I came away from that experience feeling a wonderful warm connection with these wonderful friends. I just wish I’d learned this stuff sooner!
Please leave your comments and questions below!

- Mark Shepard, Modern Jedi NLP Trainer

p.s. Why does it work out better than you can possibly imagine? (I explain why this phrase is so powerful in Lesson 4 of the Modern Jedi NLP On-Line/Hands-On Training

Feedback on The Modern Jedi NLP Training

Got an e-mail from Josh Kronlund this morning.

Josh is one of the students in the new Modern Jedi NLP On-Line/Hands-On Certification Course. I wanted to share his comments with you all as well as answer his questions and invite those of you who are still interested in learning NLP to “Defeat the Dark Side and Master Your Mind For A Change For Less Than A Latte.” :o )

The course is ridiculously cheap and set up to be a “do-it-at-your-own-pace” program.

Join us! Check it out Here: Modern Jedi NLP Trainings

The On-Line portion of the course is complimented by a Hands-On “Boot-Camp August 6-9, 2009 in the New Haven CT area. At the Boot-Camp we’ll take all the “foundation concepts” learned virtually and put them into practical use. Location is still TBD but we’ll be firming that up soon.

2009 NLP Bootcamp Up-Date: the Next Modern Jedi NLP Bootcamp will be Thursday, November 12 thru Sunday, November 15 in the New Haven, CT area.

2010 NLP Bootcamp Up-Date: SOMEWHERE WARM!

Here’s Josh’s e-mail:

Hi Mark,

First, I would like to thank you for you products, they have been pretty awesome and I can’t seem to get enough of NLP. In fact, it has helped so much, so fast, that at first, my wife was a little skeptical. But now, she wants to go with me to the August workshop, how cool is that?!

Also, I appreciate all the comments you made on my blog. I have never done anything like that, and I am actually having fun answering the questions in the quiz and learning how to blog.

Lastly, could you send me some information on the workshop in August. I would like to start making plans to do that as well.

Sincerely,

Joshua Kronlund

http://nlpstuff.blogspot.com

Thanks Josh! I’m glad you are experiencing the benefits of this awesome NLP material! I get personally excited about it because it just rocks!

One of the options I give the course students is to answer their quizzes on their blog, thereby creating content (which the search engines love) and learning some of the basics of Web 2.0 marketing.

To answer your question Josh, the Hands-On NLP Bootcamp will be August 6-9 in the New Haven CT area. The closest airport is Tweed Airport (just 5 minutes away). USAir links up to Tweed via Philadelphia.

The next closest is Bradley Airport near Hartford (about 45 minutes away) which is much larger. I’ve flown a number of times on Southwest out of Bradley.

Then of course there are the New York airports which have a lot more flights but are a definite challenge to get to during peak rush hour times.

Hope that helps.

I will hopefully firm up the location by next week.

- Mark

p.s. Want to know why I answered Joshua Kronlund’s e-mail here on my blog? Prior to this post when I googled Josh his blog did not come up on the first page of google. By the time Josh is done with the course a by product of his participation will be a much higher placement on google. While I can’t guarantee a first page placement. It’s kind of fun to see what we can do by doing just a few things differently. Essentially NLP is and attitude of wanton curiosity and willingness to experiment and pay attention to what works and what doesn’t. What works, we do more of!

So just for fun, in a week or so google Josh Kronlund or Josh Kronlund NLP and see what happens!

UPDATE 09/24/09

Check out what happens when you google “Josh Kronlund NLP”

Josh comes up on the 1st page not just once but several times. The point? When you take the Modern Jedi NLP course and choose to answer your quizzes on your blog, it will help you create a presence on line that could make a positive difference in your NLP career as well as your “day job”. Here are the screen shots:

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Modern Jedi NLP Course – Week 1 (Audio Sample)

For a little taste of the training play the audio mp3 below from the Modern Jedi NLP Certification Live Training audios.

I start the NLP Training program off with a number of nested story loops inspired by the teaching tales of Milton Erickson …enjoy!

Want to learn more? Since the new On-Line/Hands-On NLP course is designed for you to go at your own pace you can still join our current class! Defeat the Dark Side in Your Personal or Professional Life. Master Your Mind For A Change with NLP (For less than a latte)

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How I Stopped Being Shy With NLP

How I used NLP to Stop Being Shy in about 10 minutes:

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Alive With Clive

Mark Shepard, Clive Swersky, Laurie Hathorn, Dave Jenks hit it off fabulously when we met on the "Alive With Clive" show

Mark Shepard, Clive Swersky, Laurie Hathorn, Dave Jenks hit it off fabulously when we met on the Alive With Clive show

Had an awesome, magical experience the other day. I got a call on Thursday from Clive Swersky who has a TV show in White Plains NY called “Alive With Clive: People turning Passion into Profit”

A scheduled guest had canceled at the last minute and he needed someone to interview on Friday afternoon. Was I free? Heck yeah!

Modern Jedi rule #1: Always say yes to any opportunity to be on TV, Radio or interviewed in print.

I was excited to have 30 minutes to tell my story and share my Modern Jedi theme song.

Ultimately the most exciting part of the show was getting to know Clive a bit more. He has an incredibly fascinating story that I hope to actually share with you in the very near future…
Here’s the link to the Alive With Clive TV Show website

Clive was taping two segments on Friday, mine as well as one with Laurie Hathorn and Dave Jenks who are creating conferences and programs for entrepreneurs. Dave is a bestselling author in the real estate field and Laurie has had an entrepreneurial passion and a series of major business accomplishments since childhood.

Check out their work: www.FreeEnterpriseWarriors.com

After the taping we had the opportunity to go out to eat together and it was just one of those magical moments when conversation just sparked and flowed!

I’ll let you know when the episodes will air. I’ve ordered a copy of the show on DVD and hopefully I’ll be able to upload some or all of it to the web so you can check it out wherever you are.

The Modern Jedi Lesson?  Say “yes” to opportunities out of the blue. You never know where it will lead, who you will meet, who will influence you, encourage you or inspire you!

- Mark

p.s. because of the serendipitous chance to be on clive’s show I extended the Modern Jedi NLP Training reigstration deadline until Tuesday, May 5th at 3:00 pm Eastern time. Laurie and Dave might even be joining the course! Register for the NLP Course now!

NLP Q & A Call Part 1

This is Part 1 of a Question and Answer call about Mark Shepard’s Modern Jedi NLP Online Course (recorded 4/29/2009)

Introduction to the Modern Jedi NLP Online Course

  • Convenient
  • Affordable
  • Multi-media
  • NLP Community Master-Mind
  • A few examples of Real People Using NLP Michael Guerin and Rob Bronson
  • Graduates of this course will be able to be certified NLP Practitioners or they can just use the tools and techniques to improve their lives.

Q: What is NLP?

A: Neuro Linguistic Programming is all about how you run your mind. How you interpret the external world and make sense of it internally. It’s also the study of excellence. It’s also all about how you communicate with other people.

NLP is partly modeled on the work of Dr. Milton Erickson, MD “the father of Modern Hypnosis” as well as some of best Therapists, athletes, business people, etc.

Your behavior, thoughts, reactions, interpretations of the world, etc are under our control…if we knew how to access the “programs”. People can make incredible improvements in their lives, relationships and work rapidly.

Q: Can NLP help with changes where a person knows they should eat more vegetables but just never does?

A: Yes. I give a short introduction to NLP submodalities on the recording.

Q: A question about Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic channels of communication.

A: I give an example of making a quick change with a client using kinesthetic submodalities (over the phone while in the grocery store)

Q: How young can a client be and what intelligence level is needed for success with NLP?

A: Works great with kids. Works with all intelligence levels as long as a client can access their imagination.

Q: Can you explain about how your unconscious mind doesn’t recognize the difference between what is real and what is a memory or an imagined event?

A: Explained with example

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NLP Q & A Call Part 2

Q: Does NLP help with physical illness?

  • The Mind/Body Connection
  • The link between language and physical manifestations of Dis-Ease and Healing
  • Applications to business, healing, education, sports, peak performance

Q: How will the class process work?

Course material will be delivered on Fridays through a web-based program called Basecamp in the following multi-media formats:

  • PDF’s
  • Audio mp3 files
  • Videos

Every Monday we will meet via tele-conference to cover that week’s lesson and answer any questions as well as to share stories and experiences of using the techniques

At the end of the course we will have a “boot-camp”

Q: What does the course Cover?

A: NLP Course Details

Q: What are the payment details?

A: NLP Trainings

Q: Does the course include Ericksonian Hypnosis and Time Line Therapy™ Techniques?

A: Yes. They may be separate trainings in the future. But for this release they are included at no extra charge.

Q: When does the course begin?

Updated answer posted 09/22/09

A: The first version of the new On-Line/Hands-On format began May 8th, 2009.  You can now begin the course at anytime and have 2 years to complete it. I’m continually adding videos and other materials to the course as well as improving the format and deliverability of the info.

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Real People Getting Results with NLP

Modern Jedi NLP Training July 2008

Why did these people take time out of their busy lives to learn NLP?

Meet Real People Getting Rapid Results with NLP

(Each link opens a new window)

#1: Michael Guerin – Overcame Phone Anxiety, experienced exponential business growth.

#2: Len Caiafa – 30 year veteran sales professional impressed by NLP persuasion power as well as effectiveness in helping make major changes where psychology failed….

#3: Kathy McAfee – Executive Coach, ROI from NLP practitioner training in a few short weeks.

#4: Paul Binkley & Aaron Torres – two regular guys from Ohio putting Modern Jedi NLP into immediate practice at work...Please Note: This is a MUST LISTEN! If you watch or listen to nothing else, click this link and LISTEN TO THIS RECORDING!

#5: Joe Schroder Learns NLP, Stops Smoking After 29 Years! No Withdrawal, No Cravings.

#6: NLP Testimonials - real people who’ve attended a Modern Jedi NLP Training or who I’ve helped over the years as an NLP practitioner. Don’t just take my word for it. See for yourself what they have to say.

Click here:To Learn More And Register for the Next Modern Jedi Online NLP Course

(or you can always click the “NLP Trainings” button above)

Please share this post with anyone you know who could benefit from improving their lives!

Thanks!

- Mark Shepard, NLPT, – Modern Jedi NLP Trainer.

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